The Doughnut Hole in Memoir Writing

Most memoirs are written or drafted decades before they are polished and published.

Now that Medicare has repaired the doughnut hole in prescription costs, maybe they can figure out a way to fix the doughnut hole in memoir writing. My grandchildren love to hear my husband tell stories. His vignettes are anecdotes from his international business career. The kids—some of them are now adults---love to listen to him. But he almost never talks about his early life and that’s fine with them.

It’s not until your children have children of their own that they become interested in their parents‘childhood. This creates a problem because the memoir must be written before the parent forgets all the details. Thus many memoirs are drafted or written decades before they are polished and published. Even young parents forget that during the first five years the child has no memories of his own. All he has is what his parents tell him. Those early years are busy ones for young parents. But grandparents have no excuse for not writing down that which is worth remembering.

Many of my fellow grandparents are distracted by the many activities that are now available to retired people, from cruises to beach communities, from around-the-world trips to yoga camp. They claim not to have time to write a memoir. No one starts out with time to write. You must make time to write because you owe it to your family

“But I can’t write,” you cry. If you can’t write, instead talk, into a tape recorder while you drive. Keep a diary. Hire a typist to write down your memories each week as you talk for six months. There are many ways to keep a record of your life if you are not a writer. All that is required is that you are serious about keeping a record of what happened to you.

And you should be serious about it.. There is no such thing as an uninteresting life, good or bad.